Magicial Parents

Not many teenagers have the ability to fend for themselves, even when he or she thinks they have. Being one step ahead and always having a mystical air is vital in keeping your teenager in awe of your magical powers. A child needs to believe the parent holds some form of hidden power, and this must start at a young age. By the time the child is a teenager he must believe you hold all the knowledge and wisdom. This is called the power of illusion, where the parent seeks to present an affect so skilful that the child cannot believe their eyes, and cannot think of the explanation as to how the parent knew what they were up to.

The Secret of Illusion for Parents

Right up to the seventies teachers held this magical power well. As the teacher stood writing on the blackboard, simply knowing who to aim the chalk at, baffled children. Already using a heightened level of auditory awareness, the teacher could hear the whispering or movement behind. By knowing the pupils well enough the teacher could pinpoint exactly what was happening, much to the horror and bewilderment of the culprit.

This sense of bafflement is part of the powerbase and the secrecy of illusion. The child believes the adults have eyes in the back of their head, can read minds, know lies from truth, or what mischief was afoot.  All these skills are no more than a magician has with his slight of hand. The illusion of what can’t be seen, but happened because you believed you had the visual proof. 

Psychological Tricks Parents Need to Succeed

These are no more than psychological tricks based on a good understanding of a child’s body language, the tone of voice, facial expressions, what is said and done, or not said and done as the case may be. In truth knowing the child really well and reading between the lines is paramount to being a successful parent. This takes a great deal of time and in reality must be implemented in the early years of development, or your teenager will run rings around you.

The purpose of an illusion is to create a feeling of wonderment, awe and respect; where the teenager thinks the parent has a magical skill, so there is no point in lying, or behaving badly because the parent will somehow know what they have been up to. Modern parents have lost this ability to be the illusionist for many reasons. The roles have changed; the teenagers are the illusionists and have their parents running around like headless chickens. The magic has gone out of parenting.

Use Every Tool in the Box as a Parent

Taking the time to conjure up the magical awareness is so necessary when rearing well-balanced individuals. This type of illusion is strengthened when the family live in a tight knit community where the people around know the child and teenager as well. This extends the magical element further. Nothing gets past a tight community, as someone will always inform the parent that they saw the teenager somewhere, probably where they shouldn’t be, informing the parent either with love of the child, or to gloat at the parents. Either way the information is exactly what a parent needs to build the illusion of magic with integrity.

Keeping Mum!

Well - meaning gossip only heightens the power of mystery even further, especially if the parent is wise enough not to tell where this information came from. Keep the source close to your chest as this gives the child or teenager the impression you are everywhere and know everything. Revealing your skills kills your powerbase and transforms the illusion into an intellectual puzzle; one the child will do his or her level best to learn and most probably will quickly, turning the tables on you. Once the secret is revealed wonderment and amazement is missing and you will lose the essence of your powerbase.

Power Wins Over Force in Parenting

There is nothing forceful about this technique, merely plays with words, or not as the case may be, because the less you say the more you learn. Keeping the secret intact preserves the mystery and allows the parents the necessary authority to create a powerful mental and emotional message in the mind of the child and teenager. Done with integrity there is no manipulation, deceit, cruelty or control, only the illusion of magic, as the child truly believes you possess special powers.

Why do you think children love magicians at a party? This is the magical essence of wonderment and intrigue. One day when they have children of their own, they will smile and retell the story of how no matter how much trouble he or she got into, their parents always knew. This will be reflected and retold with love, humour, admiration and respect.